One of my main passions in life is my family. And even more specifically fertility, pregnancy, and child birth so watch out for several posts related to those topics. But first things first, let me tell you how my family came to be! Since it may not seem so obvious…😉
4 years now I met my now wife. We met online on not 1 but 2 dating websites! (I guess it was just meant to be). Meeting people in real life from the internet always made me insanely nervous so when my wife asked me on half a dozen dates, I always found some way to cancel. But she finally found a sure fire way to make sure I wouldn’t cancel and that was to pre purchase tickets to a Kansas City Royals game. 1. I love the Royals and 2. I would feel insanely guilty for her wasting her money on a ticket I wasn’t going to use. So I went, we finally met in person and had a fantastic time and before she even made it home I had asked her on a second date. We made it official a week later and as they say the rest is history.
We moved in together 6 months later since she lived about an hour away and we were so over the somewhat long distance thing. And then about a year and a half after that I proposed! And of course, she said “yes!” All you men out there, mad props to you all because by golly that is unbelievably nerve wracking and scary!
We got married on our 3 year anniversary in the most perfect wedding just for us! We felt so much love that day it is pretty unbelievable. I get the warm and fuzzies just thinking about it!
I always knew I wanted kids. Ever since I was a little girl, all i could dream about was one day being pregnant and having a baby. So let me tell you what a curve ball it was when I came to the realization that I was gay! Because of course that makes my dream of having my own family, that much harder.
My wife and I discussed having kids practically from day 1. She, at that time, had no desire to carry a baby but wanted one so she was definitely happy to find out I was so eager to be pregnant.
We started seriously discussing having kids, like doing legitimate research and deciding we would start trying immediately after we got married (but let me tell you, it’s sooo hard to find out good info on reproduction for gay couples out there! So hopefully I can be a good resource since I’ve spent countless hours doing so much of my own!) around the time we got engaged. I bought the book “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” and started tracking my cycles to find out when I normally ovulate so we were as prepared as we could be for when the real work began!
So after a year and a half of tracking and narrowing my window to about day 1-2 days a cycle that I knew we could get pregnant, we knew we were finally ready to do the “deed”. So we got in touch with a sperm bank. They shipped the necessary supplies to our house and we were able to do artificial insemination at home! And as luck would have it, I got pregnant on the first try, just 6 weeks after we were married! (being successful on try #1 is not very common at all, we got really lucky). We were beyond elated! And I just couldn’t believe it, my childhood dream was coming true!
But just 2 weeks after getting that Big Fat Positive (BFP) I was diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes. So we knew this was going to be a long hard road. There were a ton of worries that came along with this diagnosis but I did a pretty good job, I think, of managing my blood sugar levels. I did have to go on an oral medication but it was a really low dose and they only had to increase it once. Thank goodness I never had to go on Insulin. Besides the GD, my pregnancy was pretty much smooth sailing besides the normal aches and pains, of course.
Since I did have GD, I was not allowed to go to full term because of all the risks so at 39 weeks and 2 days I was induced at 6am! My goal for my labor was to go naturally (including no pain meds!) but I knew the risks involved with holding out and I was not willing to take it so I did go ahead and induce with Pitocin. The contractions were pretty manageable for the first 6 hours or so, then my doctor broke my water and holy cow! It was like an immediate switch from being able to manage the pain with concentration and breathing to an all out panic because the pain was so intense. I was able to go another 2 hours without medication but considering I had only dilated 1cm in almost 8 hours, I just didn’t think I could handle that pain for an ungodly amount of time so I went ahead and got the Epidural. The epidural only slightly worked for a little while and then completely wore off. I dilated 5cm in the matter of an hour and felt every bit of it. Felt everything for the next hour as I was pushing as well.
At 6:58 pm our son was born and it was the most amazing experience. Way too many emotions to even put into words, almost like an out of body experience. Now we did wait to find out gender until that moment so it was so special to get to hear the “it’s a boy!” and to hear of my wife telling our family in the waiting room. An experience, I highly recommend!
He’s 2 months old now and growing so fast. My wife and I are settling into our new roles as mommies and although it’s been hard, we wouldn’t change it for anything. That little boy completely lights up our lives!
So this was the condensed version of how we came about, I might go into more detail in parts later🙂
Thank you for taking the time to get to know us!