One thing that I have never really understood is this absolute need, almost to the point of hysteria, of finding out baby’s gender at or around 20 weeks. Some women can’t even wait that long and I’ve just never understood the need or the hype. Now, if you’re one of those people who HAS to know, then I’m not trying to say you’re crazy or anything, it’s just a concept I have personally never understood. My mom never found out with all 3 of her kids and my grandma didn’t either (not even sure they had the technology then). It’s something I always knew I would do, so for me it was really easy to wait until birth to find out my baby’s gender.
I am a HUGE supporter of Team Green. It’s really something I think everyone should experience. So here are my top 10 reasons as to why you should wait.
1. No Gender Disappointment
Ya. There’s none of that ^^. I know a lot of people say that this is actually a reason to find out because you have 20+ weeks of getting over your disappointment. But I find it incredibly hard to think that after going through the pain of labor, finally getting babe out, and having this new bundle in your arms that anyone could be disappointed. No matter what you wanted. I mean, it’s just really hard to be disappointed looking into the face of a sweet little babe that you just created. It really is.
2. No Stereotypical Pink or Blue
Because you know, each gender can be associated with a lot of different colors but for some reason we strictly stick to pink for girls or blue for boys when they are babies. This was a big one for me because I HATE the color pink, I just hate it. And if we were going to have a girl I did not want to be bombarded with pink stuff, purple would have been ok but certainly not pink. Although, if we ever have a girl I can almost guarantee she will love pink because I hate it so much, heck our son might even really like it too! You just never know!
And have you seen gray, aqua, or yellow nurseries?? They are so stinkin’ cute!
3. Saves Money on Your Next Baby
Not finding out sets you up to be a bit more frugal about things! Because if you have all neutral for the first baby (or second, third, fourth, whichever), then the next baby you have you don’t really have to buy anything new for! I mean of course your inner shopaholic will totally still buy some things but you don’t have to buy that much, really.
4. It is the Biggest and Best Surprise EVER.
Honestly, there’s not many good surprises left in this world. So I think it should last as long as possible!
5. The scan can be WRONG!
I have heard so many stories that the ultrasound tech got it wrong and the parents found out at a later scan or even after birth! I recently read that it happens about 10% of the time or 1 in every 10 scans. An ultrasound isn’t fool-proof, the technicians are human. It can certainly be wrong. This is one thing you don’t have to worry about if you just don’t find out in the first place!
6. Get the Classic “It’s a ____!!!” Movie Scene
This is something I wanted so bad and it lived up to every single one of my expectations and more. It’s an indescribable feeling you get when you hear “It’s a ____” after successfully having a baby. And then the excitement of watching your partner fly out of the room to tell people in the waiting room what we had. It’s just truly an amazing moment, it’s hard to describe. And I truly believe that it will top any balloon popping, mysterious cake eating, or painting thing that are done at gender reveal parties.
I also think this gets your partner more involved and gets part of the glory too. They get to be the bearer of good news! A moment your family will never forget.
7. Extra Motivation During Labor
Now this one you can really take it or leave it. So many people swear by this reason so I’ve included it but for me it wasn’t really a motivator during labor. Getting our precious baby out of me and safely was my biggest motivator.
8. You Actually Get what You Need
Ok, I’m going to be greedy for a minute. If you wait to find out gender then that forces people’s hands to get you what you need at your baby shower. They will get you things like muslin blankets or bottles (if you are planning to use them) or sheets, or books, or pacis or just everything instead of a big pile of clothes that your baby *might* wear. And if they do wear it, it will only be once.
9. You Can Still do Everything! Including Plan!
Now it’s time for me to get real. It bugs me BEYOND belief when people say things like “I could never do that, I am too much of a planner” Why? Because I am a huge freaking planner. I literally had spreadsheets and a million lists of everything we needed and what to do before baby got here and you know how much we were able to do of it? ALLLLLLL of it. Our son had everything he needed and more, including clothes, before he got here. So it’s definitely possible, you just have to want it! And it really wasn’t that hard, I promise.
10. Because it Doesn’t Matter
At the end of the day, whether you have a boy or a girl does not matter. What matters is you had a healthy baby. The only thing gender effects is a name (and there are plenty of gender neutral names out there too!) and potty training (which is a few years down the line anyway). You will still love them with your entire being and then some and you will still go to the end of the earth to make them happy, and you will teach them to be kind, respectful and decent people. In the grand scheme of things, gender is a very small detail.
Now, if you are one of those people who just have to know, by all means do it! You do you! But if you have any little thought of wanting to wait, I urge you to wait. I have actually spoken with a handful of people who have done both and every single one of them said they preferred to wait. Every. One.
In my pregnancy I had a total of 17 ultrasounds (high risk) and I wasn’t tempted to find out once. There was never one single slip up. You can do this, if you want to!! I promise!